“I never travel without my diary. One should always have something sensational to read in the train.” —Oscar Wilde

Mass Transit (A Very Short Story About Meeting A “Bum” On The Bus)

Mass Transit (A Very Short Story About Meeting A “Bum” On The Bus) Mass Transit is one of those special blog entries that I had always planned to use as the basis for a short story. Here I crossed paths with a stranger on a bus, and I’ve never stopped thinking about this man. Mass Transit (October 04, 2001) An articulate male voice spoke softly. It said, “That is one interesting outfit.” Sighing, I looked up to see the owner of the voice. I just knew that one of these guys was going to start talking to me. That’s w…

Stand For Something Or Sit Down (On Macklemore)

Stand For Something Or Sit Down (On Macklemore) Every single one of us should be involved in politics, speaking up and speaking out against injustices. Every. One. All thinking people understand that we all have to stand up. If you say with your whole chest "Keep politics out of __________!" then you are not a thinking person. So sit the fuck down.

Shepaug Valley High School, Class of 1988

Shepaug Valley High School, Class of 1988 I was voted "Feminist" in the high school yearbook.  I don't know why. I was gobsmacked when I saw the yearbook. I mean...I am...but what was it about me that the yearbook committee thought was particularly feminist?? I had never made a speech or written a manifesto or argued with anyone on the topic? I was not in the Debate Club nor did Model UN.   So weird.  Also, the yearbook committee was comprised of all these people who took pi…

25 Years Since The Towers Fell

25 Years Since The Towers Fell Feeling kind of tired today, but I wanted to put something down for September 11. I'm shocked to find that on the day the planes hit the towers I put only a one word entry in the Diaryland blog: War. I was probably too stunned to write.  That morning I was driving to work. The radio in my Geo Prism started to broadcast the story of a plane hitting the first tower. My first assumption was a small plane, and I think the newscaster thought that, …

It's Weird When Your Brain Breaks (On Lindsay Clancy)

It's Weird When Your Brain Breaks (On Lindsay Clancy) I’m not paying close attention to the Lindsay Clancy trial and aftermath, but I've gleaned enough through osmosis to know that I am of two minds about it.  On the one hand, I think “She could have brought the kids to a neighbor and then left town, or gone to an ER and told them she’d had thoughts about killing her kids, she’d have been admitted to psych at once.” Something, anything.  On the other hand, I had a psychotic break 12 years ago . I …

Maybe For $150K With Two Assistants

Maybe For $150K With Two Assistants So this job I found on LinkedIn. Not for me, I'm helping Joe find something Remote that's in his wheelhouse.  This job description calls for "a proactive and highly skilled Digital Assets Management professional who is a master of social media and PR strategy." Some observations.  Your Digital Asset Manager, Social Media Manager, and PR Strategist are three different people. Those roles require three totally different skill sets. …

Currently Listening: Apostrophe (Frank Zappa, 1974)

Currently Listening: Apostrophe (Frank Zappa, 1974) My first foray into Zappa was in grade school. 7th grade, so 1983. A bunch of us girls were having a sleepover at Jennifer Dixon's house in Cheshire CT, playing records, when Jen put on "Ship Arriving Too Late to Save a Drowning Witch." Stunning record, and the album art cracked me up. We went crazy for "Valley Girl," featuring Frank's 14-year old daughter Moon Unit. Moon did a lot to introduce her dad to prepubescent…

Currently Listening: Return of the Frog Queen (Jeremy Enigk, 1996)

Currently Listening: Return of the Frog Queen (Jeremy Enigk, 1996) Many years ago I found Return of the Frog Queen by plucking it out of a $1 CD bin at Diskovery in Allston. When Yolanda rang me up (I got some used books that day too) I told her that I hadn't heard of the guy, I was just intrigued by this slim cardboard sleeve with the black & white photograph of a guy about my age. I don't know what compelled me to pick this one up. Turns out Jeremy Enigk was the frontman in Seattle-based Sunny Day …

One Door Closes, A Better Door Opens (Literally!)

One Door Closes, A Better Door Opens (Literally!) I love this door. Look at it. Just look at it! Not only for it's beauty, but because we've never had a door we could open like this, because we've never lived on the first floor like this. There's that old adage about things happening for a reason. Well, the veracity of that is questionable, but in this case, it's so true. Joe and I looked at an apartment 8 months ago, fell in love with it, applied...and didn't get it. &quo…

Veggie Patty On A Wheat Bun, Bitches (The Cousin Oliver)

Veggie Patty On A Wheat Bun, Bitches (The Cousin Oliver) You know that old internet chestnut "Pics or it didn't happen?" This is why I've kept a blog for 26 years. That's why I know that I had my favorite burger on April 24 2018--The Cousin Oliver. Veggie patty on a wheat bun, bitches. Alas, they don't make it anymore, which I found out on Facebook from Robbie Rist of all people. IYKYK.

I Finally Launched A T-shirt Store (Kind Of...)

I Finally Launched A T-shirt Store (Kind Of...) Guess what, guys? On August 16th I finally started an online store for my T-shirt designs. It was three years to the day of Joe's heart transplant. Custom Ink has been printing my shirt designs for years, but only for my personal use. Custom Ink is great. My rep suggested that I test it out with one design and make it a Fundraiser instead of a store. So I did! This is my "Bear With Me" shirt. I made this one ten years ago at the lowe…

Grandpa Fought Nazis (So F*ck Off MAGA)

Grandpa Fought Nazis (So F*ck Off MAGA) On August 13th I put up a #ThrowbackThursday post on Facebook. It threw  all the way back to March 22, 1946. That's the day Grandpa DiPoala was Honorably Discharged from the army.  James DiPoala had been, in the parlance of his time, "shell shocked." That's a term that originated during World War I to describe PTSD, and my grandfather came back from WW2 suffering from anxiety, depression, tremors and the inability to speak. He di…

There Are No Smart Racists (I Said What I Said)

There Are No Smart Racists (I Said What I Said) They hate the hijab and they have no idea why.  That's why I am always saying "there are no smart racists." The average racist couldn't tell you who wears the hijab, what it stands for, or what's the difference between a hijab, a wimple, a veil, a tichel, a dastar, or a fucking Amish bonnet. They just see the hijab on a woman and fly into a rage. As a matter of fact, the quietly intelligent woman who spent an hour twice a…

When The Anti-vaxxer Is In The Family (So I Have This Uncle)

When The Anti-vaxxer Is In The Family (So I Have This Uncle) So I have this uncle. He’s like 80 or thereabouts, I don’t know exactly. I haven't talked to him in years. For one thing, there was some questionable stuff surrounding his interest in underage girls (including family members), and for another thing there was something shady about his overseas finances that was never explained. He is definitely, without a doubt, 100% a liar, and not a very convincing one at that. My Lord, the stupid lies w…

Katie Miller Insults Dr. Fauci's Journal: "Insufferable C*nt" About Covers It

Katie Miller Insults Dr. Fauci's Journal: "Insufferable C*nt" About Covers It Oh brother. On August 3rd Stephen Miller's wife actually said of Dr. Fauci "Every man who has a journal is narcissistic." Keeping a journal is narcissistic now? And is that only for men? What an incredibly dumb thing to say. Tell me you don’t know any writers without telling me you don’t know any writers. These people do my head in, Jesus.🙄

A Privacy Policy Worse Than Google? Surprise! It's Substack

A Privacy Policy Worse Than Google? Surprise! It's Substack So, you guys know I have my blog cross-posted on various platforms. Well, I also considered posting on Substack. Then, as I do, I read the Substack Privacy Policy . After which I rejected Substack with a quickness. The Substack Privacy Policy is essentially "there is no Privacy here."  It's even worse than the Google Privacy Policy update they published on May 26 of this year --the update that sent me running back to Diaryland to writ…

Temporary Pause...Please Stand By

Temporary Pause...Please Stand By You guys, I'm having a vision problem at the moment. I have to step away from blogging because I can't see the fucking screen. Doc says it will resolve on its own and that there's nothing to worry about ...

A Writer's Guide To The New Diaryland 2026

A Writer's Guide To The New Diaryland 2026 Whether you're an old school blogger or you've caught wind of the rumor (it's true) that personal blogging is making a comeback, you should know about Diaryland ( diaryland.com ).  Diaryland is one of the OG online diary platforms, launched in 1999 by Canadian developer Andrew Smales. For those of us who started out on Diaryland way back when "blog" was years away from becoming a household word, we writers poured our hearts &#…